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Emily Post's Wedding Etiquette: Cherished Traditions and Contemporary Ideas for a Joyous Celebration (4th Edition) (Hardcover)

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What makes a perfect wedding? "[The bride] and the groom both look as though there were sunlight behind their eyes, as though their mouths irresistibly turned to smiles," wrote Emily Post in 1922's Etiquette. Great-granddaughter-in-law Peggy Post, author of the fourth edition of Emily Post's Wedding Etiquette, absolutely agrees with Miss Emily. To ensure those bright eyes and smiles, she imparts thoughtful and commonsensical advice on how to plan for not just your wedding, but for all the social and familial obligations and traditions that a wedding entails.

Unlike many wedding manuals, Post includes advice for the "encore" bride as well as for the new bride. In this day of remarriages and blended families, tact and strategy are often needed to make sure feelings aren't hurt and everything runs as smoothly as possible. A chapter on multicultural and interfaith marriages addresses differing world traditions and how they can be incorporated into a touching ceremony that makes both the couple and their families happy. If you are unsure of who is supposed to do what, Post gives you clear instruction, often including a flow chart that delineates the responsibilities of all people involved in the wedding party (bride's parents throw the engagement party, best man returns the tuxes, flower girl's family pays for her outfit).

Throughout Emily Post's Wedding Etiquette are sidebars with questions asked of Post regarding an amazing array of wedding-related conundrums ("My daughter's fiancé wants to follow his family's tradition of having a money tree at the wedding. I personally find this distasteful; can I say so?"). This is a great book to find the answers for all those sticky questions. All involved in the wedding process should leaf through, get their bearings, smile, and then forge ahead. --Dana Van Nest

Book Description
Peggy Post, America's etiquette authority, presents an indispensable, comprehensive guide to planning and personalizing your wedding. Today's weddings are more complex than ever before, with new traditions and new family relationships to consider. This thoroughly revised fourth edition of the classic Emily Post's Wedding Etiquette addresses countless wedding questions both old and new. With the famous Post blend of sensitivity and practicality, Peggy Post shows how to handle the big decisions and the little details that will make your wedding beautiful to behold and uniquely yours -- and how to carry it off with minimum stress and maximum style.

Three new chapters offer advice on the latest realities of today's weddings, including multicultural ceremonies, encore weddings, and postwedding duties. Expanded sections give guidance on financial matters, working smoothly with wedding consultants and others on your "wedding team," and planning theme and destination weddings. Dozens of at-a-glance lists, boxes, and charts on everything from most-asked questions to creative ideas for personalizing the day are perfect guides for busy brides and grooms.

With this book in hand, a couple can confidently blend the best of classic tradition with contemporary style, making this wondrous event a celebration to be remembered and treasured by all.

Review: Excellent Purchase!
I am studying to be a Wedding/Event Planner and this book is a part of my course study. I loved the material and featured Q&A. The book is very modern yet contemporary at the same time. An excellent buy for anyone planning their wedding or joining the wedding industry.

Review: Panic in the wedding aisle!
Yikes! I am newly engaged, and this book scared the bejebbers out of me! My fiance and I were looking at a simple wedding. This book intends to scare you into looking at more and more elaborate proceedings. Finally, you are at the point where you believe no one but a diety called a "wedding planner" can actually pull off a wedding.

Perhaps it is where I live and my social-economic class, but this book view of etiquette is manners that quickly translates into cash. I literally woke up in the middle of the night when I considered how much everything would cost and how far behind the wedding planning was.

My friends who are married knew what sort of wedding I had in mind and did not hestitate to tell me to send the book BACK.

Review: This massive guide is all-inclusive and brilliant
Not just for Etiquette! This book is an impressive wealth of knowledge and information, and is just loaded with useful information that I've never found in other wedding books, and I've bought and browsed my share of them. You need not worry this book will just repeat information you may already have in other books, this book will complement your collection and give you lots of details you probably won't find anywhere else. It's the wedding Bible. And, although Post is the authority on Etiquette, not only is this guide the only Etiquette helper you'll ever need, it also is a huge help in planning and ideas. You won't find any glossy full color photos in here but this book offers so much those other more "glossy" books don't have. This is a MUST for any engaged couple.

Review: Great wedding resource, more than etiquette.
This is a great book for any bride to be. It includes not only etiquette, but it also has tips. It was especially useful for wording on invitations, and also for the envelopes. A classic!

Review: The only wedding book you'll need!
This books takes the place of so many other books out there, like guides to writing thank yous, guides about religious traditions, what to wear. This book has it all. You're getting about 15 books for the price of one. Emily Post's Wedding Etuiquette guides you from announcing your engagement to friends and family all the way through writing Thank you's and everything in between. It's an invaluable guide for the bride, the groom, the bridal party and even the guests at a wedding! Have you ever wondered how much to give for a wedding? What to wear for a daytime formal wedding? What order to use for the processional? How do you write out an invitation for a same sex couple? What is the appropriate way to write out Thank yous? All of these questions and many more are answered in this thorough, sensible book. It's a great read and very well organized so you will be able to find anything you need. It is a great gift for the bride and groom because its timelines can also be used as a planner. It's also a great gift for the bridal party or parents of the bride because it outlines all of those responsibilities as well. This may very well be the only wedding book you'll ever need, whether you're the bride, the groom, the father of the bride, the maid of honor, or just a guest!

Review: Excellent bridal resource
Read Miss Manners or Emily Post for advice before you throw any major event and you can't possibly go wrong. In this day of Bridezillas and tacky "traditions" such as family-hosted showers, money dances, and registry info in wedding invitations, the astute bride will consult real experts rather than The Knot or Dear Prudence!

Review: A fairly good book
This book is marvelous help in preparing for your wedding day, laying out all the physical aspects of the wedding from A to Z. Sadly, this book doesn't have much discussion on preparing your heart for the day. It is said that a woman looks forward to her wedding day, a man looks forward to the wedding night - both are important, but men often tend to downplay the day's events as they focus on the evening.

Review: Invaluable
An invaluable book to avoid potential wedding/social faux pas. Has guidance from invitations to thank you letters and everything in between. If you're wanting more value for the money, I would suggest "Emily Post's Etiquette (16th Edition or latest)" as it covers wedding (albeit not as detailed), social and business etiquette areas.

Review: Very helpful and incredibly detailed
I decided to get this book because I was struggling with how to make wedding decisions that would potentially upset some people, like not having kids be invited. I was surprised when the book arrived at how thick it is, there is really a wealth of information in it. I like that she gives both a traditional and contemporary view on certain topics, and the sections are clearly marked so its not as though you have to read it from beginning to end to find what you are looking for. I think this book can be helpful even if you're not facing and etiquette dilemma, it makes you think of things you hadn't even thought of. Its also really clearly written.

Review: Excellent Single-Source Wedding Book,
If you only plan on buying *one* wedding guide book, this should be it.
Peggy Post addresses almost every aspect of wedding etiquette in this hefty book. Although you can find most of this information on Internet sites, Peggy Post does a fantastic job of compiling wedding information in one easy-to-use volume.

Book highlights include:

- Exhaustively Thorough Invitation Section
(Example: Outlines specific language you should use if the bride's divorced/remarried parents are jointly hosting the wedding.)

- Engagement Outline
(Example: Gives recommendations for who the happy couple should tell, when, & how.)

- Guest Information
(Example: Discusses gift giving, response cards, etc.)

Peggy Post does an excellent job of conveying information without sounding preachy. She offers recommendations instead of barking standards.

In addition to being a great planning tool, this book is also quite lovely! As such, it would make a beautiful engagement gift.

Highly recommended.

The New Book of Wedding Etiquette: How to Combine the Best Traditions with Today's Flair (Paperback)

From Library Journal
In spite of our increasingly casual society, weddings remain steeped in etiquette and tradition. Shaw, a wedding and special events planner, presents a very formal set of rules for the wedding couple and guests, covering the engagement period, money handling, planning, attendants, guests, correspondents, and parties. Chapters includes an easy-to-read Q&A section along with a brief list of Do's and Don't's. Though some of the advice will seem outdated to some modern couples, the book does cover many contemporary situations, including divorced family members and destination weddings. Recommended for libraries needing to update or supplement material found in general wedding books or etiquette books by well-known experts like Peggy Post and Miss Manners.
Copyright 2001 Reed Business Information, Inc.

Review
Modern-Day Weddings with Grace and Style

Book Description
Modern-Day Weddings with Grace and Style
Wedding ceremonies are still about love and romance, a special moment that creates a beautiful and everlasting union. But not everything related to weddings stays the same over the years. Etiquette evolves, rules change. And who can keep up with all of today's complicated family issues? With the help of this book, you can stay on top of it all and learn how to combine timeless wedding traditions with the latest trends and social styles. Inside, you'll discover the secrets of having a beautiful, contemporary event full of fabulous elegance while at the same time satisfying the varied needs of friends and family. Included are etiquette tips and hints for every step of the planning process and answers to today's trickiest wedding situations, including:

-- How to handle unique family situations
-- Who pays for each aspect of the wedding
-- When the bride has a best man and the groom has a maid of honor

You'll also find answers to frequently asked questions, do's & don'ts, and personal reflections, plus ideas for traditional and nontraditional weddings. This modern-day etiquette companion is the perfect wedding-planning partner. Now, you can relax and enjoy preparing for your special day!

"An outstanding resource for anyone planning a wedding! Shaw's advice is concise, on target, in good taste, and always full of dry humor."

—Carolyn Shepard-Baehre, AIFD, president, Carolyn Shepard Design Group

Review: Wedding Planning For REAL People
FINALLY! A book that doesn't assume I work as a designer for Martha Stewart Weddings. It offers guidance to all with such wonderful common sense (which I've found all TOO uncommon in today's wedding guides!) This book does not tell the bride that she can do anything she wants becasue after all it's HER day. Ms. Shaw comes straight to the point and tells you the truth. Just like a best friend. Only this best friend knows exactly how to word the invitations and seat the groom's family. And this book is actually funny! The examples of faux pas are excellent reminders of just how ridiculous and childish people can get when it comes to weddings. This book will help you make your day special, AND help you expertly manage the delicate situations that will surely arise along the way. Above all, its humor will remind you that weddings are supposed to be fun. This is a great gift for a bride-to-be.

Review: A great reference book for everyone involved in a wedding
I am getting married in July and my sister is getting married in August. She is my maid of honor and I will be her matron of honor. She bought a lot of wedding ettiquette/planning books that we have both been consulting, and this is by far the best. The author has obviously been involved in planning many weddings, from the most elaborate to the most simple, and she offers great advice. A must-read for the bride who wants as many personal touches as possible, but also wants to know what's acceptable -- and what's not. A very funny read, as well!

Review: Witty and Helpful Book
This wedding book is very well done. The best part of the book is the fact that it uses humor. In an age when weddings have become the focus of obsessive mothers and brides that are out of touch with reality, Shaw uses humor to foucs on keeping the wedding tasteful and nice. The book is full of tons of practical advice. The use of humor makes it very readable for grooms!

The Everything Wedding Etiquette Book: Insights and Advice on Handling Even the Stickiest Wedding Issues (Everything Series) (Paperback)

Book Description

Wedding Rites .... And Wrongs!
Looking for up-to-date advice on today's complicated wedding issues? Let The Everything Wedding Etiquette Book be your guide! This practical book offers all the answers to your most commonly asked etiquette questions, including:

Can I asked my future in-laws to help pay for the reception?
How can I include stepparents in the wedding?
Do I have to invite dates for single guests?
...And many more!

You'll also learn the correct way to word wedding invitations for all types of family situations, how to let people know you're keeping your maiden name, and how to whittle down your guest list. Filled with insight and contemporary advice for your tricky wedding dilemmas, The Everything Wedding Etiquette Book will help you have a fun-and stress-free-wedding!--This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

Review: Great Book
It's a great little book with all the info you need. I noticed the last review was in 1998 - I have the revised edition published in 2000. Well worth the investment.

Review: Informative and it fits in your pocket!
A plethora of good tips! This books offers suggestions and answers to the many nagging yet necessary questions that need to be answered before the 'Big Day'. For example, at my last marriage (my second), I ripped my wedding dress waist high and if it hadn't been for this book, my maid of honor wouldn't have saved the day with the needle and thread she so cleverly hid in her bouquet. Anyway, this book is great!




Wedding Etiquette Hell : The Bride's Bible to Avoiding Everlasting Damnation (Paperback)


From Publishers Weekly
Rather than lecture couples about what they should do before, during and after the Big Day, consultant Hamilton (Bridezilla: True Stories from Etiquette Hell) warns them what not to do in this quick, easy guide to modern-day manners. Hamiliton runs through a list of nuptial no-nos, from invitations and bridal showers to receptions and the like. She provides pages of horror stories culled from www.etiquettehell.com, the Web site she started in 1997. Hamilton scoffs, for example, at the bride and groom who tried to solicit sponsors for their wedding in exchange for "signage at the reception venue." She shakes her head at the pair who took their registry "to a new low in greed" when they offered guests chances to pay for specific parts of their honeymoon in Hawaii-the airfare, the housing, the meals and activities. And she reprimands the couple audacious enough to send announcements a full year after the event, telling friends and relatives not invited to the wedding that they can "honor the union" with "contributions to the home purchasing fund." Tacky and rude, these instances of extreme faux pas make for amusing reading. Hamilton's discussion is slightly hampered, however, by occasional fictional asides. Meant to give further insight on the planning process, the fictional conversations between a generic "Brideweena" and etiquette expert "Miss Jeanne" are distracting instead. They add little to the overall project, a book some people-particularly those who revel in others' social blunders-will find infinitely fascinating.
Copyright © Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved.

Review

“Whether your dilemma is choosing bridesmaids' dresses or deciding where to seat your future in-laws, this book can save you from eternal damnation.”
--New York Daily News

“Jeanne Hamilton takes on the predictable (guest list woes, invitation wording) and surprising (scheming bridesmaids, greed-inspired faux pas) with savvy she's learned in the wedding world trenches.”
--Boston Herald

"Hilarious, real-life stories that drive the points home."
--Library Journal

Book Description

Covering such wedding staples as attendants, invitations, registries, showers, the ceremony, the reception, and thank yous, Etiquette guru Jeanne Hamilton will give numerous examples of bad etiquette that should be avoided at all costs, such as:

--No bride owns the calendar. Insisting that everyone within your acquaintance had not dare schedule their wedding anywhere within a six month time period labels you as a classic Bridezilla.

--Sponsored wedding, at which vendors who donate their services are offered the opportunity to put their logos on various wedding related paper products.

--It is never wise to make bridesmaid offers while in the grip of fluttery, just-engaged emotions. You may have to rescind those offers later when you realize you were just a bit too hasty. Once having made the offer, it is extraordinarily ungracious to rescind it, unless you want a seething friend or sister using your engagement photo as a dartboard.

--Enclosing a blank deposit form for a bank account bearing the names of the bride and the groom with the invitation.

And much more! This is a hilarious exploration of how weddings can literally drive people mad.

About the Author

JEANNE HAMILTON is a wedding consultant and the creator of www.EtiquetteHell.com, which has been featured in prominent publications like USA Today, People, and Wall Street Journal. She lives in Oxford, North Carolina.

Review: A must read! Very funny and helps put things into perspective

I bought this book because I wanted a light hearted read to give me a break from all the chaos in planning. It was an easy read yet funny and somewhat informative. I LOVED it and highly recommend it to anyone who is interested in etiquette yet not consumed by it. It cleared up a few questions that I had as well as gave me a lot of good ideas on what NOT to do and most of all laughs. There were also a few OMGs because I couldn't not believe the ridiculousness of some people/brides.
All in all a definite for any new bride.

Review: All brides must buy this book
I am a devotee of Miss Jeanne's website, so this book was exactly what I thought it would be. I am not a bride-to-be, but I have seen enough wedding disasters a bridezillas to know that this book must be read by anyone who will in any way be involved in a wedding. Miss Jeanne's inclusion of actual stories submitted to her as examples of what not to do, and her framing the chapters with the fictitious bride and bridal consultant is excellent organization and writing of this book. This book is not going to teach you what colors to choose or what flowers would look best, but it will deal with the important things, such as not looking or acting like a greedy bride and groom and when to ignore your mother for the sake of true taste and etiquette.

Review: Must need bridal guide!

I thought this book was hillarious as well as a great guide for any bride to be. Anyone who has ever been a bride or attended weddings probably knows a horror story or two regarding them, and can really relate to this book. I am using the advice planning my own wedding, and it's a much better read than most of the boring bridal etiquette books.

Review: How Not To Be a Bridezilla 101
In this appallingly correct and entertaining, Ms. Jeanne of etiquettehell.com shares her experience (sometimes painfully acquired) of scrupulously correct behavior for brides and grooms. Despite what the wedding indu$stry tells you, anything does NOT go today.

Proving that polite behavior never goes out of style, Ms. Jeanne blows "traditions" such as money dances and family-hosted bridal showers out of the water, as well as debunking myths such as "the guest's wedding gift must equal the cost of their dinner at the receptions" (by correctly pointing out that receptions are FOR the GUESTS and NOT an after-wedding party for the bride and groom) and the prevailing notion that one is automatically entitled to gifts from friends.

Should be required reading for every bride, groom, bride and groom's parents, and anybody else who wants to maintain an illusion of civilization in a world that's fast losing it.

Review: Boorish business
Emily Post's wedding book is a much better investment if you'd like to learn about etiquette. If, however, you want to read "true" stories about people behaving badly, this book is for you.

This is more like the "when dogs attack" of wedding etiquette.

Review: You'll laugh. You'll gasp. You'll scrape your jaw off the floor

Jeanne Hamilton has put together a fantastic book that combines the "how-to-have-a-lovely-wedding" guidance with pithy advice on how to avoid being a raging, foaming-at-the-mouth beast of a bride. With her trademark humor, Hamilton guides the bride through proper etiquette from the ring to the reception, and her missive is laced with horror stories about rude, tacky and over-the-top weddings and receptions. The stories serve as cautionary tales to all who would be tempted to have an A and B list of guests, hit up attendants for money, word the invitations to include a demand for cash gifts, or any other such crass behavior.

I recommend Hamilton's book to anyone who is about to embark upon that walk down the aisle. And even if you are not about to be married, it's a good read if you've ever wondered, what is it about weddings that turns nice, ordinary people into absolute monsters?

Review: Relationships more important than the perfect wedding
As a longtime fan of the EtiquetteHell web site, I bought the book with high expectations and wasn't disappointed. The book is not intended to be a definitive work on etiquette but rather focuses on the most commonly committed mistakes and faux pas brides are likely to commit during their wedding planning. Eschewing stuffy etiquette that serves no other purpose than to separate the snooty from the etiquette challenged, Hamilton zeros in on the wedding etiquette faux pas that will most likely damage relationships with witty humor that had me laughing out loud on occasion. The book repeatedly emphasizes the theme that a perfect wedding day should never come at the expense of hurting the people dearest to us.

The one thing that does separate this book from other wedding etiquette books is the emphasis on the bride's civility during the most trying of situations. Rather than succumbing to a well justified urge to scream and get slap happy at lazy bridesmaids or annoying mothers of the groom, Hamilton encourages restraint for the sake of the bride's dignity. Civility doesn't mean being a doormat, however and the book offers encouragement to choose the higher road. The book gives examples of civil responses to a few awkward situations. While I'd like to have seen more examples of situational civility, the reader is not left wondering what it looks like.

Review: Fun and practical
This book is a refreshing change from the "stuffy" books on wedding etiquette, and a must read for those who are tempted to be taken in by the numerous bridal magazines and on-line wedding sites whose primary purpose is to get you to spend more money than you intended. In fact, Ms. Hamilton opens your eyes to some of the subtle ways advertisers and vendors employ to come between you and your hard earned cash, and is forthright as to how the reader can avoid these pitfalls.

Throughout the book, Hamilton peppers her own experiences as a consultant with cautionary tales of those who either endured or witnessed bratty, self-absorbed, and at times nasty behavior from brides with an inflated sense of entitlement, or brides who made the mistake of trusting the wrong people, ie members of their wedding party. Some of these tales are so appalling one wonders if they can be true, but unfortunately, they probably are. Most readers will take solace in knowing that "I would never behave in that fashion...." which of course makes them all the more fun to read while we wonder what were these people thinking? Part of the fun in these stories is that while reading them we assure ourselves that we know better than to behave in such a fashion, at the same time wondering "what were these people thinking?"

However, these anecdotes are not there strictly for our amusement, but also as an example of what is, or isn't, proper behavior. Hamilton won't tell you what flowers should be in the bouquet, or whether the bride should wear white, or how many courses should be served at the reception. Ms. Hamilton re-inforces what is all too often forgotten: courtesy and common sense. The bride and groom are obligated to treat their wedding party, family, guests, and each other the way they would want to be treated. Incidentally, guests aren't necessarily let off the hook, either. Ms. Hamilton also stresses that they are expected to behave properly and not complain to the hosts if the wedding and/or reception is not to their liking.

The only drawback was the dialogue between "Miss Jeanne" and "Brideweena," (although I thought Brideweena's mother's name, "Ethell" was kind of cute) because it was repetitious and reminded me of school books when they summarize the chapter. But these were brief interludes and I just glossed over them.

Hamilton doesn't play to a particular crowd, meaning that this is good commen sene advice for anyone planning a wedding regardless of it's level of formality. This is less about the minutiae of the plans and concentrates more on the bigger picture.

Review: Excellent, Common-Sense, Non-Stuffy Advice
Jeanne Hamilton cuts through the wedding mumbo-jumbo and delivers common-sense advice on good grace that applies equally well to simple church-hall services to pull-out-the-stops fancy blowouts. This down-to-earth book ignores silly, snooty elements of "etiquette", dismissing concerns over thermography versus engraving and such. Instead, Hamilton focuses on getting priorities straight - marriage, family, and non-bratty behavior - rather than re-creating a style magazine photo spread.

Hamilton frames her advice through fictitious consultations with young "Brideweena" and her mother "Ethell". While the names are slightly cheesy, the advice is not. Hamilton cuts through wedding-greedy mentality and concern over keeping up with other brides ("Muffin Louise"), and re-directs her clients towards behaving in the way they know is right - living within their means, gratefully thanking those who help with their wedding and those who give gifts, and not buying into the entitlement gimmies that the "wedding industry" suggests. Hamilton reminds one of their own mother, or favorite aunt, - who cares enough not to put up with a lick of bratty behavior.

Don't look to this book as a handbook for wedding planning, or a how-to-guide for invitations and shower set up. Hamilton isn't concerned with the details - and indeed, is very flexible with details in general - but the overall spirit of wedding planning. Happiness, gratitude, and grace are emphasized, not the font of the moment or how to arrange seating at the rehearsal dinner.

One small complaint - the format of the book includes letters from the "Etiquette Hell" website, included in a hard-to-read italic font. While these letters are amusing, I think they interrupt the flow of the book visually and thematically. Hamilton gives excellent advice on her own, and doesn't need holdovers from her previous co-authored book or from her website to give this book heft. While the stories of bridal atrocities are amusing, the strength of this book is in Hamilton's common sense advice, and realistic, relaxed attitude towards wedding planning.

Review: Hilarious and Helpful!
This book is a lot of fun and very helpful. Hamilton has a unique way with words that gets you laughing so hard you don't realize when you've been punched in the teeth with good solid etiquette advice. She uses stories from people who are relating real-world wedding etiquette disasters to illustrate her points and "rules" of civility. There are probably about a hundred of the rules, but the way she presents them, as responses to amazingly tacky behavior presented in the stories, it doesn't feel pedantic or dry at all, just enjoyable and interesting. I never thought I'd enjoy reading about civility and wedding etiquette this much.

Hamilton adds little sidebar conversations between a sweetly clueless bride named "Brideweena" and a wedding consultant, "Miss Jeanne", doubtless representing the author herself. These and the Brideweena's Checklist sidebars add helpful ideas to think about when planning a wedding. With much wit and occasional wry sarcasm, she makes her points about what behavior to avoid. Much of it is pretty commonplace and I might have drifted right into some of it without thinking of the impact on those around me if I hadn't laughed at it in others along with "Miss Jeanne".

The only small negative is that sometimes the stories go a little long. They are still only a page or two at most and most of them are quick reads, but every once in a while I got the point before the story got to the end. This combined with a narrow italic font for the stories makes them a little hard on the eye. However, most of them are short and almost all of them are gripping - often in that train-wreck-fascination kind of way. Then Hamilton provides commentary in her signature style that has me laughing all the more at the idiocy of some people's behavior.

If you are a bride or groom, or if you know any, or if you are going to be attending a wedding in the next decade, this book is for you. If you've wondered how to do a wedding right - or how not to do it wrong! - I think this book will be of help to you. You'll get a lot out of it and you'll have a lot of fun in the process.

Bride's Book of Etiquette (Paperback)

Book Description
Everyone dreams of the perfect wedding. And for nearly seven decades, Bride's magazine has been the leading authority on the subject. Now, in a completely revised edition, Bride's Book of Etiquette offers the most up-to-date information on engagement and wedding planning, and realistic solutions for any problem that couples may encounter. This trusted classic includes information on:

* Drawing up--and paring down--the guest list
* Wording invitations for special circumstances
* How to get his family to share wedding expenses, and who pays for what
* Seating divorced parents and making sure they get along
* Handling advice--and interference--from family, friends, in-laws, and perfect strangers
* Including children in a second wedding
* Answering the tough question: "Am I invited to the wedding?"
With special sections on:
* Theme weddings
* Military weddings
* Ethnic and religious customs
* Prenuptial agreements
* Vows
* Long-distance planning
* Charts on tipping, fashions and seating
* Photography and videography
* Music and deejays
* Invitations
* Flowers and cakes
* Interfaith ceremonies

Review: Soooo helpful!,
This book was my favorite and I bought about 10. This one was the most complete and helpful in planning and sticky etiquette.

Review: Comprehensive etiquette review
Got the book free from bridal expo. Excellent source for invitation wording and thank you writing. Book is well worth the price. Would highly recommend.

Review: Excellent Bridal Guide
This book was an excellent guide for planning my wedding. It also is an excellent resource for those sticky questions!